Many people have told me they’re feeling shaken to the core.

Unsteady and distraught.

Extremely anxious.

Full of “what’s next?”.

This could be true for you no matter which way you voted in the election or where you live in the world.

This could be your experience just from scrolling your Facebook feed!

This could be true for you if you strongly disagree with your family, friends, or colleagues, and you have/will find yourself in intense conversations (Oh hey there Thanksgiving dinner).

This could be true if you don’t understand the “other” side.

This could be true if you feel helpless in any area of your life right now.

I’ve posted comments + videos in the past two weeks, usually leading with “I don’t have the right words. I don’t know what to do.”

But that’s not entirely true.

Here’s what I know:

This week a woman in one of my private group classes said to me, 

Thank you for guiding us last week. You knew just what to do and it was extremely helpful.

This was in reference to the class we had the week prior, on Nov. 9th, when in the beginning of class 6 women were shaken to the core - talking non-stop, not understanding, unable to focus, taking quick shallow breaths.

Instead of our usual moves focused on building strength and stability, we switched to a focus on BREATH, locating sensations in our bodies, foam rolling, and relaxation.

They left feeling more clear, more calm, more settled.

I know that the wonderful group of people I’m leading through my 21 Day program, many of whom have felt emotionally drained this week, have told me that moving their bodies at home with the videos has given them some structure, helped them process, and/or that they’ve really appreciated having our intimate community centered around kindness + compassion.

[Doing the workouts] helped me accept things as they are, right now.
— 21 Day participant

This post isn’t about testimonials though, it’s the deeper connection.

Here’s what I know:


Pay attention to

...that uneasy feeling in your gut

...stifling sadness in your chest

...overwhelming tightness in your throat

...the holding of your breath

and sit with it for a moment.

Feel it.

Let yourself REALLY feel it.



Get hot.

Get cold.

Notice what your body is telling you.

ASK your body what it’s telling you.

For real. Ask your body,

  1. “What are you telling me?”
  2. “What’s important about this?”
  3. “What do you (I) need right now?”
  4. “How can I give that to you (me)?”

Here’s what I know:

When you quiet and tune in to your body, you can sift the outside noise.

Eventually the shaking/crying/heat/cold will shift and your solid, sturdy center will remain.

Your center of KNOWING will be revealed.

To KNOW what you believe in.

To KNOW you matter.

To KNOW your body is wise and here to help you.

To KNOW what your very next step will be.

Practice strengthening that place.

Here's a sequence to get this concept out of your head and into your body. 

It's 6 min of core and stability work. It will strengthen your center, and you might just end up shaking your in core from all that strength building. ;) 

*I'm doing this with a 6lb ball for extra challenge, but that's optional. You can also do these same moves without equipment. 

Extra credit: 

Strengthen your centering of KNOW-ing by listing the things that you know to be true in the current moment while you're doing this workout. 

Say them out loud or silently to yourself.  

Over to you... 

In the comments I'd love to hear what you know to be true when you sincerely LISTEN to your body and ask what it needs. 

What comes up for you? 

With love and connecting to your center, 

xoxo elyse


I'm a personal trainer, fitness coach, and yoga teacher who gets people moving with in-person training and my signature online 21 day workout program. I want to help people drop the guilt/shame game around exercise and start working out with ease and kindness. When I'm not doing squats and sun salutations, I'm dressed up in vintage lindy hop dancing or gathering other Lovely Lady Entrepreneurs to talk about their careers and living their most passionate lives. Start moving with me today with these FREE stretch breaks you can do to feel more energized and aligned during your day! -


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